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Interesting title, I have decided to write about who are you and what do you want. Because so many of us wander around on this planet not know who we are or knowing what to do!
So first of all, who are you? What do you currently do for a living and are you happy with the job you currently have?
I know I am asking lots of questions of you all, but it is for a reason and the reason is to identify what is right for you! Because by doing a job that you are either not suited to or are not happy with, can lead to you feeling down, under pressure. Which if you do not deal with can lead to stress and for your confidence and self esteem taking a basing at the same time.
Why did you choose your current role / job? Ask yourself if you know what you know now about the job, if you were applying for the role for the first time, tomorrow, would you! If you could say yes, then you probably have chosen the right career path for you.
But if you can say no I would definitely not, then we need to look at why? And what are the learns about your experience that you can incorporate into any future opportunities you look for.
So how do you set about identifying what is right for you, to be honest you should get yourself a Life / Business Coach to help and guide you to a natural conclusion! The reason I say this is because everyone including myself will not ask ourselves the right questions, because we can avoid any difficult ones that put us on the spot. Secondly we are not always honest with ourselves and think we know best, but without help it is not always possible to come to the right conclusions.
If you do decide to go it alone, remember what has not worked for you in the past, take the learns you have gained and put them to good use in any future decisions you decide to make. Then challenge yourself about what is important to you.
What things do you enjoy doing?
What makes you happy the most?
What skills do you currently have?
What qualifications do you currently have?
What qualifications do you need to achieve what you want?
There are loads more questions that you need to consider to enable you to come to the right decision.
Then you have to record the options you have available to you and then go through the pro’s & con’s of each option.
Once you have decided on the correct option for you then you need to know how to go about achieving this option!
Then there is the how?
Yes how do I go about achieving what you want?
What is required?
What support do you need?
What qualifications if any do you need?
Who do you need to contact to enable you to achieve your goals?
Set yourself time scales, when do you want to achieve you goal by?
Can you do it on your own, do y0u have enough resources yourself?
If not who else can help or support you in achieving your goal?
Provided you have a process to follow and to enable you to move towards your true goal and you focus on that goal you will get your desired outcome!
Timothy Galway – says that everybody has the ability to achieve what they want in life, and he uses a formula which is:-
The Formula is – Performance = Potential – (minus) Interference. Which is simple, yet so powerful you, because it is simply staying you get what you focus on and avoid any distractions / interference!
If you want to contact me or need advice, please contact me and lets get you on the right path to your chosen career.
What do I mean by the above title?
There have been lots of articles and discussions over the last twelve months or so, about looking at the bigger picture and where we fit within it. This progressed into people and politicians talking about how the Big Society, which is made up of individuals, fitted into the Big Picture?
The reason behind all these thoughts and discussions, is quite simple really, because we all play a part in both. And we fit in on so many different levels as well, i.e. as a person what we bring to the world?
Then as a brother, sister, son, daughter, mother, father, etc. etc. then you have the impacts and consequences (causes & effects we provide) whilst we are on this planet. When you look at the interactions we all undertake throughout our lives along with causes & effects they all have, you can see a massive chain reaction which takes place, purely based on an individual action which also has a ripple effect far beyond what we had intended originally.
So politicians at long last have started to wake up and realise their own causes & effects which take place, every time they implement any changes, the subsequent outcomes directly impacts on the business world, families right down the an individual level.
What they have also recognised during this realisation is that everyone has to be involved in the Big Society, from top to bottom. If sections of the Big Society are left out, whether by accident or deliberate, there is always a negative outcome which impacts on society and in turn a bit like a dominos effect carries on long after the initial change.
That is why it is so important for everyone to have the opportunity to be able to play a part within society and to feel valued . We are only here once (as far as we know) so lets all play a part in changing things for the better, remember the Big Society is only part of the Big Picture, .i.e. environment, animals, plants, the world etc. etc.
A fully active and interactive society generates positivity which in turn aids everyone to be part of society and help to shape the Big Picture, so that everyone benefits from the Big Society taking a responsibility for not just the humans but for the greater benefit of the World / Planet.
People most at risk from stress (Further information which I have researched and thought you would enjoy from businessballs.com)
In one US study as many as 40% of workers described their jobs as very stressful. While not a scientific gauge and not measuring serious stress health problems, this gives some indication as to how prevalent work-related stress is. As regards official health records, in the UK, the nursing and teaching occupations are most affected by work-related stress, with 2% of workers at any one time suffering from work-related stress, depression and anxiety. (The figure for teachers rises to 4% when including physical conditions relating to stress.) Care workers, managers and professionals are the next highest affected occupations, with over 1% suffering from serious work-related stress at any one time. UK HSE work-related stress statistics suggest that work-related stress affects men and women in equal numbers, and that people in the 45-retirement age suffer more than younger people. More socially-based USA research suggests that the following American social groups are more prone to stress (this therefore not limited to work-related stress): young adults, women, working mothers, less educated people, divorced or widowed people, the unemployed, isolated people, people without health insurance, city dwellers. Combined with the factors affecting stress susceptibility (detailed below), it’s not difficult to see that virtually no-one is immune from stress. An American poll found that 89% of respondents had experienced serious stress at some point in their lives. The threat from stress is perceived so strongly in Japan that the Japanese even have a word for sudden death due to overwork, ‘karoushi’.
work-related stress trends
Data is sparse and confused (stress statistics are also complicated by metal health reporting in the UK), but the statistics do indicate certain growth. In the UK HSE statistics indicate a doubling of reported clinical cases between 1990 and 1999. Working days lost per annum appear to have been about 6.5 million in the mid-1990′s, but rose to over 13 million by 2001. Greater awareness of the stress ailment in reporting no doubt accounts for some of this variance, but one thing’s for sure: the number of people suffering from work-related stress isn’t reducing.
costs of stress
UK HSE statistics suggest stress-related costs to UK employers in the region of £700m every year. The cost of stress to society is estimated at £7bn pa. (These figures were respectively £350m and £3.7bn in 1995/6 when total days lost were half present levels.)
Stress is caused by various factors – not all of which are work-related of course, (which incidentally doesn’t reduce the employer’s obligation to protect against the causes of stress at work). Causes of stress – known as stressors – are in two categories: external stressors and internal stressors.
external stressors – physical conditions such as heat or cold, stressful psychological environments such as working conditions and abusive relationships, eg., bullying.
internal stressors – physical ailments such as infection or inflammation, or psychological problems such as worrying about something.
From the above, it is easy to see that work can be a source of both external and internal stressors.
Stressors are also described as either short-term (acute) or long-term (chronic):
Short-term ‘acute’ stress is the reaction to immediate threat, also known as the fight or flight response. This is when the primitive part of the brain and certain chemicals within the brain cause a reaction to potentially harmful stressors or warnings (just as if preparing the body to run away or defend itself), such as noise, over-crowding, danger, bullying or harassment, or even an imagined or recalled threatening experience. When the threat subsides the body returns to normal, which is called the ‘relaxation response’. (NB The relaxation response among people varies; ie., people recover from acute stress at different rates.)
Long-term ‘chronic’ stressors are those pressures which are ongoing and continuous, when the urge to fight or flight has been suppressed. Examples of chronic stressors include: ongoing pressurised work, ongoing relationship problems, isolation, and persistent financial worries.
The working environment can generate both acute and chronic stressors, but is more likely to be a source of chronic stressors.
Stress effects on health and performance
Stress is proven beyond doubt to make people ill, and evidence is increasing as to number of ailments and diseases caused by stress. Stress is now known to contribute to heart disease; it causes hypertension and high blood pressure, and impairs the immune system. Stress is also linked to strokes, IBS (irritable bowel syndrome), ulcers, diabetes, muscle and joint pain, miscarriage during pregnancy, allergies, alopecia and even premature tooth loss.
Various US studies have demonstrated that removing stress improves specific aspects of health: stress management was shown to be capable of reducing the risk of heart attack by up to 75% in people with heart disease; stress management techniques, along with methods for coping with anger, contributed to a reduction of high blood pressure, and; for chronic tension headache sufferers it was found that stress management techniques increased the effectiveness of prescribed drugs, and after six months actually equalled the effectiveness of anti-depressants. The clear implication for these ailments is that stress makes them worse.
Stress significantly reduces brain functions such as memory, concentration, and learning, all of which are central to effective performance at work. Certain tests have shown up to 50% loss of performance in cognitive tests performed by stress sufferers. Some health effects caused by stress are reversible and the body and mind reverts to normal when the stress is relieved. Other health effects caused by stress are so serious that they are irreversible, and at worse are terminal.
Stress is said by some to be a good thing, for themselves or others, that it promotes excitement and positive feelings. If these are the effects then it’s not stress as defined here. It’s the excitement and stimulus derived (by one who wants these feelings and can handle them) from working hard in a controlled and manageable way towards an achievable and realistic aim, which for sure can be very exciting, but it ain’t stress. Stress is bad for people and organisations, it’s a threat and a health risk, and it needs to be recognised and dealt with, not dismissed as something good, or welcomed as a badge of machismo – you might as well stick pins in your eyes.
Causes of stress at work
These are typical causes of stress at work:
bullying or harassment, by anyone, not necessarily a person’s manager
feeling powerless and uninvolved in determining one’s own responsibilities
continuous unreasonable performance demands
lack of effective communication and conflict resolution
lack of job security
long working hours
excessive time away from home and family
office politics and conflict among staff
a feeling that one’s reward reward is not commensurate with one’s responsibility
working hours, responsibilities and pressures disrupting life-balance (diet, exercise, sleep and rest, play, family-time, etc)
factors influencing the effects of stress and stress susceptibility
A person’s susceptibility to stress can be affected by any or all of these factors, which means that everyone has a different tolerance to stressors. And in respect of certain of these factors, stress susceptibility is not fixed, so each person’s stress tolerance level changes over time:
childhood experience (abuse can increase stress susceptibility)
personality (certain personalities are more stress-prone than others)
genetics (particularly inherited ‘relaxation response’, connected with serotonin levels, the brain’s ‘well-being chemical’)
immunity abnormality (as might cause certain diseases such as arthritis and eczema, which weaken stress resilience)
lifestyle (principally poor diet and lack of exercise)
duration and intensity of stressors (obviously…)
signs of stress – stress test
At a clinical level, stress in individuals can be be assessed scientifically by measuring the levels of two hormones produced by the adrenal glands: cortisol and DHEA (dehydroepiandrosterone), but managers do not have ready access to these methods. Managers must therefore rely on other signs. Some of these are not exclusively due to stress, nor are they certain proof of stress, but they are indicators to prompt investigation as to whether stress is present. You can use this list of ten key stress indicators as a simple initial stress test: tick the factors applicable. How did I do?
loss of appetite
poor concentration or poor memory retention
uncharacteristic errors or missed deadlines
anger or tantrums
violent or anti-social behaviour
alcohol or drug abuse
methods of personal stress management and stress relief
If you are suffering from work-related stress and it’s beginning to affect, or already affecting your health, stop to think: why are you taking this risk with your body and mind? Life’s short enough as it is; illness is all around us; why make matters worse? Commit to change before one day change is forced upon you.
If you recognise signs of stress in a staff member, especially if you are that person’s manager, don’t ignore it – do something about it. It is your duty to do so. If you do not feel capable of dealing with the situation, do not ignore it; you must refer it to someone who can deal with it. You must also look for signs of non-work-related stressors or factors that increase susceptibility to stress, because these will make a person more vulnerable to work-related stressors. These rules apply to yourself as well….
Stress relief methods are many and various. There is no single remedy that applies to every person suffering from stress, and most solutions involve a combination of remedies. Successful stress management frequently relies on reducing stress susceptibility and removing the stressors, and often factors will be both contributing to susceptibility and a direct cause. Here are some simple pointers for reducing stress susceptibility and stress itself, for yourself or to help others:
stress relief pointers
think really seriously about and talk with others, to identify the causes of the stress and take steps to remove, reduce them or remove yourself (the stressed person) from the situation that causes the stress.
Understand the type(s) of stressors affecting you (or the stressed person), and the contributors to the stress susceptibility – knowing what you’re dealing with is essential to developing the stress management approach.
improve diet – group B vitamins and magnesium are important, but potentially so are all the other vitamins and minerals: a balanced healthy diet is essential. Assess the current diet and identify where improvements should be made and commit to those improvements.
reduce toxin intake – obviously tobacco, alcohol especially – they might seem to provide temporary relief but they are working against the balance of the body and contributing to stress susceptibility, and therefore increasing stress itself.
take more exercise – generally, and at times when feeling very stressed – exercise burns up adrenaline and produces helpful chemicals and positive feelings.
stressed people must try to be detached, step back, look from the outside at the issues that cause the stress.
don’t try to control things that are uncontrollable – instead adjust response, adapt.
share worries – talk to someone else – off-load, loneliness is a big ally of stress, so sharing the burden is essential.
increase self-awareness of personal moods and feelings – anticipate and take steps to avoid stress build-up before it becomes more serious.
explore and use relaxation methods – they do work if given a chance – yoga, meditation, self-hypnosis, massage, a breath of fresh air, anything that works and can be done in the particular situation.
seek out modern computer aids – including free downloads and desktop add-ons – for averting stresses specifically caused by sitting for long uninterrupted periods at a computer screen work-station, for example related to breathing, posture, seating, eye-strain, and RSI (repetitive strain injury).
Note also that managing stress does not cure medical problems. Relieving stress can alleviate and speed recovery from certain illnesses, particularly those caused by stress, (which depending on circumstances can disappear when the stress is relieved); i.e., relieving stress is not a substitute for conventional treatments of illness, disease and injury.
Importantly, if the stress is causing serious health effects the sufferer must consult a doctor. Do not imagine that things will improve by soldiering on, or hoping that the sufferer will somehow become more resilient; things can and probably will get worse.
For less serious forms of stress, simply identify the cause(s) of stress, then to commit/agree to removing the cause(s). If appropriate this may involve removing the person from the situation that is causing the stress. Counselling may be necessary to identify the cause(s), particularly if the sufferer has any tendency to deny or ignore the stress problem.
Acceptance, cognisance and commitment on the part of the stressed person are essential. No-one can begin to manage their stress if they are still feeling acutely stressed – they’ll still be in ‘fight or flight’ mode. This is why a manager accused of causing stress though bullying or harassment must never be expected to resolve the problem. The situation must be handled by someone who will not perpetuate the stressful influence.
Removing the stressor(s) or the person from the stressful situation is only part of the solution; look also at the factors which affect stress susceptibility: where possible try to improve the factors that could be contributing to stress vulnerability. This particularly and frequently involves diet and exercise.
The two simplest ways to reduce stress susceptibility, and in many situations alleviate stress itself (although not removing the direct causes of stress itself) are available to everyone, cost nothing, and are guaranteed to produce virtually immediate improvements. They are diet and exercise.
Well we all have a brain and I find our brains to be a marvellous piece of equipment. That we take for granted, it works when we don’t, and it thinks when we don’t!
Our brain receives over 10, billion pieces of information per day from external events and to avoid any overload, our brain has to either distort, delete or generalise the information it receives, to be able to deal with this amount of information.
This information comes from all of our five senses, visual, sound, touch, smell and taste.
Our brain filters this information through our internal filters; distortion, deletion or generalisation takes place to the original information.
This process is known as our internal representation system and incorporates time, language, memories, decisions, values, beliefs and attitudes.
Once your brain has gone through this process, it affects your state and physiology and in turn this is portrayed in a persons own behaviour.
How to start using this knowledge and put it to good use when you are coaching?
To understand how the brain and your own internal filters work and what are your own primary filters. They are referred to as the VAK System.
Individuals will normally have a bias towards one of the VAK’s
When communicating with people, the language a person may incorporate will include either Visual, Auditory or Kinaesthetic words for example: -
Clarity, Foresight, View, Appear, Illustrate, Spectacle, Examine, Watch, Picture, Reveal.
Accent, Alarm, Announce, Audible, Earshot, Listen, Shout, Remarkable, Say, Tell, Mention, Sounds Like, Strike a chord.
Active, Callous, Concrete, Solid, Flow, Pressure, Tickle, Touch, Motion, Sensitive, Impact, Comfortable.
What words are being used?
Listen to a conversation, then try to work, out what is a persons normal bias. i.e. are they?
Orientated towards being Visual?
Orientated towards being Auditory?
Orientated towards being Kinaesthetic?
This can change depending upon environment i.e. work or home or certain situations. But normally we all tend to have a bias towards one type of VAK.
And there is no right or wrong VAK to use; it is what makes you the person that you are!
Other characteristics for each VAK
Visual – Talk quite fast, like visual things, love images, design, maths, chemistry and will like an attractively designed environment i.e. a picture paints a thousand words!
Auditory – Will like drama, writing, literature, music, able to tune into new ideas, they often like speaking to audiences and will not like any disturbances when trying to listen to someone any back ground noise they will pick up and it will distract that thoughts.
Kinaesthetic – Quite laid back, there may be silences or pauses when in conversation, that is because they are processing a response and they like to check options internally first, before replying. They like climbing, walking, athletics, They are also good at dealing with new trends, they hold onto reality.
From a coaching prospective, you can start to see that by having this knowledge enables you to communicate on there level.
i.e. If I used Kinaesthetic language to Visually orientated person then the likely hood is that we may not build grate rapport. Because I am talking and stating how I feel and using words about firm foundation, need to get to grips and hold on to what you have got.
And the Visual person with be using words like, I see, looks ok to me? I will be able to keep an eye on things. Etc. etc.
That mismatch of language can confuse and cause all sort of problems. As a coach if I use Visual words within my language to Visual person. How powerful is that, we both see and picture the same things, which builds rapport and enhances trust, respect etc.
This also is the same for Visual to Auditory, Kinaesthetic to Auditory, the coach has to be in tune with the coachee and use the language.
What are you seeking out of life?
If your young it is how to live the life of fun, enjoyment, fulfilment, excitement, travel, music, dating, cars, fashion, image etc. all of these cost money and need commitment. So you want to earn good money to enable you to use the money to do the things you want out of life! But if you don’t plan, don’t set goals to aid you getting your dreams and desires to become a reality, what then?
If you are now ready to settle down, then you have different needs and requirements, you may be looking for a partner to settle down, you may also be looking to develop your career to enable you to buy or rent your first property together. You may have a five or ten year plan to get married, buy / rent a home, have a family, buy a car etc.etc. This also requires careful planning and effective setting of goals if you are ever going to be able to achieve these without being in debt that is possibly causing you problems etc.
Lets say you are now been married, have a home, have children, all the usual family commitments, mortgage, loans, holidays abroad, children’s education, keeping up with the Jones’s etc.etc. Have you planned effective goals to enable you to enjoy your life? Are you on course to achieve what else you may require in life?
I could go on and on about different age groups and different circumstances we all face in life as we progress in life, the one thing we don’t know in life is what is going to happen to us next. But we can certainly take control and head in the direction we want to go and have as much influence as we are able to.
As the old saying goes you only have one life, so lets make the most of it!
If you link goal setting and start to think you want out of life then you are on your way and all you then need is to focus on those goals until you have achieved them and then set new goals to keep you moving in the direction you want.
I have started by adding some data from NLP that I think you will find interesting and ended with how you can use these methods.
NLP techniques help particularly by making it possible for people to………
Set clear goals and define realistic strategies
Coach new and existing staff to help them gain greater satisfaction from their contribution
Understand and reduce stress and conflict
Improve new customer relationship-building and sales performance
Enhance the skills of customer care staff and reduce customer loss
Improve people’s effectiveness, productivity and thereby profitability
What does it take to enjoy your life?
What does it mean to you?
How important is it to you to achieve success?
Unless you know what you want in life, and how do you intend to achieve success – then you can underachieve your desires which can have a knock on effect.
Which can lead to you feeling at a loss, not knowing what to do or where to go in the future?
Well believe in yourself and what you can actually achieve, then you need to plan your goals and objectives for the future. Set yourself time scales to be able to measure your own success and achievements. Only by taking time out to reflect what you have already achieved and what you still need to achieve to enable you to move forward towards your goals and objectives.
There is no rocket science involved, just using your existing knowledge, skills and attitude can make the difference between success and missed opportunities!
So seek support and help to maximise your full potential via a coach, who will help you to identify the key issues you need to address.
Firstly you need to know who you are and what you stand for? Also you need to want to make changes to enable you to succeed success!
And this means in all aspects of your life, including your career & your personal relationships, because you may be happy in one area but not all three?
So the key thing is to accept you need to have a balance in your life between your career and your relationships, because if you get the balance wrong then you are likely to head towards problems, which include emotions, your family, your career and finally what it will cost you in financial and personal terms.
So seek support on a regular basis with a coach to avoid the pitfalls that can impact on your life?
Don’t forget they creep up on you without your full knowledge that they are happening to you before it is to late!
There is nothing more important in life than your family & friends, compared to having money and career success, otherwise you will become the richest person in the cemetery!
So believe in the future and that you can make the changes that make a difference to enhance of your life and ambitions for the future.
Only conditioning during our lives makes us think or believe that you can’t do something! When in fact this is not true and you can achieve what ever you want if you really want to!
So always remember you only have one life, so why would you want to waste it? Make the most of your life and yes this will mean at times you need to take chances? Hay this is part of life, and what we need to accept and decide what we want and how we are going to achieve what I want in life.
You can have it all, happiness, success and fulfilment, provided you are adaptable and prepared to adjust to enable you to achieve your desired goals.
And trust me you can, I have worked with lots of people, including clients who have changed they way they do things for the better and achieved the desired results they wanted in like!
I cam across this link which I thought you would enjoy and help to build your repertoire of powerful questions to use when you are coaching!
Solution Box has been very kind in allowing this material to be provided to others for free provided the originator is not looking to make money from it!
So I hope you will value these questions as much as I do, and let others know about this article as they are essential for anyone wanting to improve their management skills etc. or to improve your own personal life by asking yourself these questions to help you to achieve your own success.
Well where do I begin, many people do not understand what coaching is about, unless they relate it to sports and then they get it and value it! So to me it is very strange that people cannot see the benefits coaching has in other areas of your life, people I meet and talk to want me to explain the benefits, yet again if I relate to sports they get it!
When you grow up, you under go a grooming process to prepare you for life, with how to interact and how to communicate with fellow colleagues etc. So you get conditioned as to how to respond to certain situations etc. That also embeds certain behaviours and attitudes which can help or they can hinder your way in life, without you actually knowing that these values and beliefs control your normal thought process and actions that arise from them!
So let regress a moment, when you are a child you are constantly asked what do you want to do when you grow up? What a stupid question in itself, you do not have the knowledge or experience to identify what you want. Yet you are asked to decide at a relatively early age without knowledge or experience to decide on your career path! So it is no surprise that many then struggle to know what to do and what education studies you need to undertake along the way to achieve the desired results.
Then you leave school and take up the challenge to work and stab at a career path, which you still may not be fully aware of what you want, you are told you are lucky to have a job in the current climate! Well I have news for you the damage done by continuing to undertake a job or role you dislike or hate will have a knock on effect in your life and health. Remember you only live once and you must stop take stock and decide what you want in life? Then to take the actions required to achieve those results. Please do not get me wrong it is not always easy to achieve when you have certain commitments, but if it is really making you unhappy, the likely hood is that you will lose all that you value in life, family, friends and the style of life you have become used to!
But if you do not change or strive to achieve what you want in life, then you will always deprive yourself of what could have been, and can you live with that in your retirement years, saying if only I have done this or that!
Well I have news for you coaching is the most undervalued resource available to you or anyone! Because it allows you to discover who you are and what you want in life? Then it helps you to be able to know how to achieve your desires, goals or projects!
Coaching can provide you with a way to achieve success in various areas of your life, whether it is in life in general or your business or your career or even in your relationships. The results are priceless and enable you to achieve real results in your life and your plans for success for a very minimal cost!
Coaches are trained and have the ability to understand you as a person, to know how you tick as a person also they are excellent listeners and can respond to what is actually happening in your life and how to change things for the better.
What people miss, is that they think they can and will deal with whatever life has to through at them, yet in reality they do not, then this has a knock on effect which will take its toll some time in the future!
Coaching actually changes lives, businesses and relationships, it is a fact that if you take the time to check you will find is true, look to someone who has actually experienced a coach, then you will find the truth!
Its funny when I talk to people they are unsure at first, then suddenly in a relaxed situation with no actual risk or threat to them, they open up and discover hay maybe there is something in this coaching etc! Then they want to explore further and are willing to pay for the service which they actually say is not like paying for a service it is a must to enable them to process in life! A cheep and valuable resource available to everyone and should not be missed!
Those of you who have been following my blogs will have an understanding of the sort of skills and knowledge I have provided in my articles. I love writing them and I intend to write a book @ some time in the near future.
I would like to spend some time dispelling the myths or phobias that surround Life & Business Coaching. There are a lot of people who still are not sure what does coaching do and give in return for the investment that you are required to make?
And you are right to be unsure, what are I getting for my money?
You need to know is coaching the right choice or intervention?
Should you have to pay to find that out? In my opinion no, so my first session is a get to know you scenario (free).
Why do you think you need life or business coaching?
What do you think from your understanding will life or business coaching give you in return?
How do you go about choosing a life or business coach?
Well I could go on and on, re the questions you might need to ask yourself before coming to a decision.
What does life or business coaching give you?
To have the opportunity to explore other options, and find alternative ways, to deal with existing or potential future issues.
You might think well I can handle the issues as and when they arise?
But can you? Do you? In so many case’s, that is the problem you don’t.!
So the issues etc build up and suddenly without warning become a huge mountain that you have to climb, but don’t have the energy to do!
So what is the norm has changed and you avoid the issues for another day, and press on with other things that you need to focus on, but you can’t, why?
Because in the back of your mind the other issues are still there, still unresolved and they are eating away in the back of your mind. You then take these thoughts and issues home with you, you can’t rest, and you get irritable with those around you. Then because your partner or family, are unaware of what you are going through.
What happens, you explode and you lose your temper and your loved ones get the full brunt of your anger and are confused, what is wrong with Daddy? How does Mum deal with your issues and still have to deal with bringing up the family as well?
Sound familiar, I know I have been there done that, even got the Tee Shirt! And to some extent missed out on the little things of reading bed time stories etc to my own children! You can be sure I have made every effort there is, to make up for my mistakes!
But if only, when I needed someone to talk to, there had been a life & business coach available, I could have changed things for the better. The only options around for support at the time, were councilors or therapists?
To avoid losing my marriage, family life and career, would I have paid out money for a life & business coach? To right I would!
How do you measure or put value to the most important things in life?
For example:- Brand values how many people buy a particular brand because they think they are getting value for their money and as well as guaranteed quality. No matter what it costs if it is a particular brand it has to be good?
No thought goes into how long are they going to use this product, so the question has to be if it is for a season, why pay a fortune for the item?
If you our looking for quality and longevity i.e. hi fi, pc, electrical items etc then items that have a reputation for longevity you would be silly not to buy a brand name. In would not make sense to buy cheep if it is not going to last very long!
The reason I mention the above is because the perception is that a solicitor, accountant, financial advisor and a life and business coach, etc are expensive, so we all try to avoid their services? Thinking it is cheaper in the long run, well is it? How many times have we ended in the situation that if only! in hind sight, I should have done or used their experience and know how, plus It would have cheaper in the long run!
You get what you pay for in life, pay cheep you get a level of service that is related to the amount you have paid, what most people forget is if you are paying for quality, experience, knowledge, qualifications etc. etc. If you have spent time and money getting yourself to a place you can proudly announce you are a master of. What you charge has to measured against what you get for your money, whether it is a product or a service.
It comes back to how do you value yourself, your family, your work life, what price are you prepared to pay to get it right? Or are you prepared to go it alone and see what happens!
Well I am good at what I do, and I will not hide from that fact, you get what you pay for I am quality and my brand of life & business coaching is the best value for the money you will pay for. So if you feel coaching is an area you have yet not tried and want to see if it will work for you? What have you got to lose, I am only an email away, or a phone call and the first session is free. What is the catch, there is no catch, only joy when you start to achieve what you want in life! Remember you only have one life, so make the most of it
Firstly I would like to talk briefly about coaching and the attitude a lot of people have formulated towards the term.
C0aching is not something new, it has been around for a long time and mainly associated with sports, so why do people think it is normal to have and pay for a sports coach? Because they want to achieve success, they want to be the best at what they do. And it has long been established that behind every successful sports person, there is a very successful coach!
Check by talking to someone who has used a professional coach for life, business, relationship, career or performance coaching needs. They will confirm that it is not myth, it works it enables and empowers them as an individual to work out for themselves, what needs to happen next.
Coaching puts structure into what you want to achieve, it also enables you to remove obstacles or barriers that have been getting in your way. You will discover things about yourself that you did not know, coaches do not have all the answers, but they able to coach you to find the answers for yourself.
A good coach will be able to understand you as a person, how you process things and how to show you ways to maximise the processes that you use to your advantage when dealing with others. They will know your VAK’s (modalities), Metaprogams (filters), and will look at a basic ladder of happiness / Wheel of Life – Employment, Money, Personal Development, Relationships, Health, Social Life and Freedom.
Coaching in simple terms allows you to know yourself and enable you to control what you want out of life. Knowing what you want and being able to achieve your desire and dreams, is so powerful and motivational, you want know yourself.
So why is it that generally we shun coaching in other areas of our lives?
Why do many people avoid success in there daily lives and struggle on hoping things will improve for the better? And again why do people plod on every day in work, watching the clock waiting for home time to come around, what impact is that having on you and your health.
Why is it? we are prepared to pay lots of money on commodities and consumer goods and expect quality. We will also beg still or borrow to make sure our children achieve or able to have the best start in life. Yet when it comes down to the individual, we don’t have the same desire or passion to do it for ourselves.
You carry on doing the same things day in day out and week in week out!
The main reason why people don’t consider coaching as a viable source is that firstly they are not sure what or how it can actually help them and secondly in their eyes it costs quite a lot.
Well I hope I have answered the first point or at least enough for you to give me a call and check it out for yourself.
The second point, what price do you put on happiness and fulfilment?
Would you buy a house or do anything legal without a solicitor, you might if you could avoid paying fees and also to save money. What happens thought, if something goes wrong, how much extra is it going to cost you.
Another couple of examples, of where people have wanted to avoid paying the fees for professional services .i.e. Accountants, where would you be if you avoided an accountant and then had to deal with the inland revenue because your accounts are incorrect or wrong?
Professional Financial Advise, Again without professional financial advice, would you have enough life cover for you and your family, or maybe not enough monies to live on when you retire or not enough to retire when you wanted to.
What you are paying for is the expertise the training that they all have had to undergo to provide you with knowledge, skills and knowhow as well as the best information possible available.
But without professional help and support in life, we would experience all kinds of potential problems costing far more that the original fees.
Take control of your life, seek the changes you want, because they won’t automatically come to you, you have to be proactive and go and get them yourself.
Pretty basic language I know, but it is true you get what you are prepared to focus on in life as well what you are prepared to pay. So let tomorrow be the first day of the rest of your new life, you can make changes, you can achieve what you want.
Turn those dreams and desires into reality, take the first step get yourself a coach, if you have been following my blogs for a while, you will know how passionate I am about coaching and what it do for you.